Guy's Wife Won't Shower, He Says He'll Live In Shed

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mattstaff
Apr 10, 2020 7:00 PM EDT

Throwing out the shed as a potential living space amidst this quarrel was a wild ultimatum. Maybe, it's the kind that this particular couple needs to smooth things over. Cause at this point, it sounds like the two human beings sharing a space together are at odds, over one person's refusal to maintain some basic hygiene. 

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    Text - AITA for "forcing" my wife to take a shower? She hasn't bathed, changed clothes, or done any household things since Animal crossing/doom released. I pre-ordered both and a few more things for her as a semi early anniversary gift and she absolutely loves them... Too much. I didn't say a word the first few days, I understand excitement but once it got close to a week I made a bath for her and she said she'd get to it later. Later as in 2 hours when the water was cold so she was no longer in
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    Text - She has no known mental health problems and it's definitely not depression, in fact it feels quite the opposite. She gets super happy and excited about almost anything and bad news is always faced with optimism. I knew she'd cling to the games but I would have never imagined it being this bad. Today she was able to start playing a new one I pre- ordered and admitted she's probably not leaving the room for a day or so. I outright asked that she takes a shower before she starts paying but t
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    Text - way fine, l'll be moving to our shed (it has AC and power so it's not bad at all) until she bathes and that upset her because she felt like she was being treated like a child and being forced to do things. I told her she was acting like a child and started packing my shit. She swears l'm being "a jerk" and I personally feel I was slightly over dramatic but I was pushed to this point. Bonus info. We're both in our mid 20s, no kids, no intent on kids, and I have a halfway decent job so she
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    Text - fromthesamestory • 6h NTA. There is a fine line between having fun and letting a game consume you. It sounds like she isn't showering, changing her clothes, cleaning, cooking, or pulling any weight at all. That isn't sustainable for more than a day or two. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope she wakes up soon.
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    Text - anonymous053119 • 5h • Certified Proctologist [28] NTA- you say she doesn't have mental health issues, but trying to justify not bathing for weeks because of video game releases sounds like a mental health/ addiction/obsession issue.
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    Text - MsB0x • 5h • Partassipant [3] NTA - this isn't normal behaviour - it's compulsive behaviour and almost seems like addiction. It's interrupting her normal life - which presumably would usually involve showering - so this isn't normal. However it might be worth talking to her about why she has abandoned her normal life and taking care of herself for these games. You say she doesn't have mental health issues but she's putting feeding herself as a lower priority than these games. Something is
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    Text - andwhiskersonkittens • 6h • Pooperintendant [50] I'll be moving to our shed NTA. She should be the one to move to the shed if she wants to live like an animal. I just looked up the release date of animal crossing and it was 3 weeks ago today. The fact she's not had a wash in 3 weeks by choice is horrendous.
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    Text - insertusernameplease • 6h NTA. My husband and I would be having a talk if either of us hit 3 days without showering. Over a week is way too long.
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    Text - Tsorovar • 5h • Partassipant [2] NTA. It's a real problem and you were more than patient with her. It sounds a lot like she's become addicted to the games.
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    Text - April_Spring_1982 • 4h 1 Award NAH. This is an issue with addiction. You're NTA, but neither is she. She needs help. This behaviour meets the definition of addiction: "A brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences." Basically, playing the game lights up her dopamine (reward centre) and that feels so good that she'll let her hygiene and health suffer. It can get worse than that without help. Addiction can develop in people who hav
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    Text - filetomnom • 5h NTA but it sounds like a mental health issue that she's dealing with. I think you should have a talk with her about how she's feeling. Healthy people don't avoid basic hygiene for something they can pause.
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    Text - Adrianc43 • 6h NTA because hygiene is pretty important and requesting that of your roommate/soulmate may be unflattering, it should be a common routine.
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    Text - rdono638 · 5h • Partassipant [4] NTA what kind of showers does she take that it's going to disrupt her gaming that badly? Like my wife can take long ones sometimes, but dear lord
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    Text - jlc_1027 • 5h • Partassipant [4] NTA Wow she is addicted hardcore. If as an adult you think that showering is a punishment then you aren't in the right mental space. She clearly has an addiction and needs help.
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    Text - pengetal • 5h • Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA. I got a game at the start of kickdown and too binged it. However I kept up with cleaning the house and getting myself up and dressed /clean every day. It's gross, you did the right thing.
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